Just Say What You Want, Dammit! How to Speak Up

  By Ellen Tien “I want my husband to have more sex with me,” a girlfriend remarks at lunch. “I feel like he rarely initiates it, and I want to do it more often.” “Did you tell him how you feel?” I ask, after the waiters have administered strong smelling salts and propped me back […]


Finding A Way

  By Eric Wettstein, Optimum Counselor Often times in life we come upon situations where we don’t know what to do, where to turn or how to deal with events that seem to be beyond our capabilities or out of our control.  The next time you stumble upon something tough to handle don’t think of […]


There’s 90% Attitude…then there’s everything else…

By Eric Wettstein, Optimum Counselor   Have you ever heard, “Life is 90% attitude and 10% what happens to you”? The single most important decision you can make out of every given moment is choosing the right attitude. Everything follows from there–“The ancestor of every action, is a thought”. Your attitude can literally make or […]


10 Choices You Will Regret in 10 Years

  “If only . . . ” These two words paired together create one of the saddest phrases in the English language. Here are ten choices that ultimately lead to this phrase of regret, and how to elude them: Wearing a mask to impress others. – If the face you always show the world is […]


5 Surprising Ways to Get More Energy

  Need more energy? Here are some really surprising, non-caffeinated, ways to rev you up… 1. Change your socks. I know, odd, right? I read about this one over at Zen Habits. The advice is to bring an extra pair of socks to work and sometime around 3 p.m. when you hit your slump, take […]